Determination
I always need much time to make decisions. I seldom make up my mind instantly.
For one thing, I don’t find it easy to select from many things. For example, in a restaurant, I take much time to choose a dish from the menu. Except when I have already decided what I want to have, I usually have a hard time choosing.
I also think about things too carefully. When I was a high school student, I had to choose between science and biology since I could take only one class. I had good grades in science, but my home-room teacher said I had better choose biology. Science was getting more and more difficult and I was a student who was going to take a university-entrance examination, so he said that. I was puzzled about it, but finally I took biology.
I can’t decide things quickly. So, when I’m asked to speak, I’m confused what topic I should talk about. But many students don’t seem to have this problem, which I find admirable.
Yesterday, determination was required again. I found a nice sweater in a shop. I want a sweater like that, but it was expensive. I didn’t buy it after all; however, it also took much time to make this decision.
Comments
Well, there are many kinds of people. One who decides quickly, another who hesitate when he needs decision. As for me, it is getting easier to decide things. When I was a student, I couldn’t find what I needed and what I had to do. Now, I have come to know what is important and necessary for me and I also find that sometimes I even don’t need to make decisions so qickly. I know I can postpone things.
Miyuki, is your Zodiac Sign Libra? Because Libras are one of the most indecisive signs of the Zodiac. And I wonder now…how did you manage bying the Christmas presents? I`ll bet that was a difficult one, right?
Erik :: December 26, 2003
I feel much the same way, a lot of the time. I can be extremely slow to come to a decision but am learning to be quicker, trying to make snap decisions more often. At the end of the day, what’s the worst that can happen? Even if we make a wrong choice we’re sure to learn from our past mistakes. And, you only live once, after all.
Hi Erik.
There’s no shortage of knee-jerk responses and conditioned reflexes anywhere on this planet, so I for one welcome people who take a bit of time over their decisions.
I think there is a big difference between making a careful choice and being paralysed by choice. When I am in a situation where I feel under pressure to make some choice but I am unsure of what to choose, I try to walk away from the situation for a while. The correct choice to make usually comes into my head later.
For example, sometimes I am in a store and I see something I am tempted to buy, but which costs a lot of money. Instead of making a decision to buy that thing immediately I just walk away. Then I come back to the store later. If I still want the thing badly, I buy it. If the thing I want has already been sold, I tell myself that I was not meant to buy that thing, and move on without worrying too much. I find this reduces attitude reduces my stress.
Also: if I have to make a quick decision and the outcome does not matter too much, I just flip a coin. If I disagree with the outcome of the coin flip very much, I make the opposite decision.
I understand you very well, Miyuki-san. It takes me much time to decide if I buy something or not whenever I go shopping. The other day, I did hesitate about whether I buy a coat or not, but I dared to buy it. Now I don’t regret it and I like the coat very much.
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Yes! You take much time to decide things. I know it well. (笑)But you do not have to mind it. Because it is also your charm point, I think. Where is the shop? how is the sweater? Of course I …